The Grief Series raise questions as to how is one able to voice the authentic self when the codes of behaviour and etiquette are unknowable? How is it really possible to know another human being? And where does my grief lie in all of this. Stitching sorrow into flesh and The wall of grief, are works where I ruminate on my grief and ambivalence surrounding the death of a close Chinese friend and colleague. My use of stitch, cloth, limited colour palette and negative space, come together to depict my internalised struggle as a non-Chinese woman working in Shanghai. A woman ensnared in a dilemma of reconciling the inner alienation and isolation felt, when Chinese socio/cultural codes and moral values appear ambiguous or impenetrable. A psychological mind fog, where there is little knowledge or personal experience of how to express or share grief in a form that can be mutually understood. Stitching into the void, narrates my journey of grief: beginning with a sense of deep loss and then journeying through an ever changing feeling landscape. Here I sit with emotions I do not fully understand, until finally reaching a transformative stage, where there is still sadness but also acceptance. A coming-into-knowing that this is part of my spiritual journey and emotional growth.